Choose Him Wisely: How to Identify a Safe Partner

"Choose Him Wisely" is written by PhD clinical psychologists with a combined nine decades of clinical and research experience working with victims of domestic violence and male abuse. Fueled by Dr. Meichenbaum's passion for protecting the women closest to him, he and Dr. Wexler created a way to help women make smart and safe decisions about their partners with this practical, user-friendly, and compact book that can help both men and women make critical decisions.
Together, the authors dive into the stories of Gabby Petito and many others—celebrities and everyday people alike. What questions and tools did these women miss when choosing a partner? No system for doing this is perfect—but it is vital for everyone to become equipped with the right knowledge to try and steer clear of an abusive relationship.

"Quite simply, we sincerely believe that if our daughter Gabby Petito had learned about domestic violence, whether in school, through conversations, or from a book like Drs. Wexler and Meichenbaum's Choose Him Wisely, her life could have been very different.
In short, Choose Him Wisely is full of compassion, wisdom, and practical information that can save lives. We strongly endorse this book in honor of Gabby's memory."
--Nichole and Jim Schmidt, mother and stepfather of Gabby Petito, Founders of the Gabby Petito Foundation
I read "Choose Him Wisely" from cover to cover without putting it down. It is a must read for any woman at any age. Two great experts in the field, sharing what they have learned from years of experience. This book helps you understand what you might be feeling. Buy a dozen and give them to your relatives, friends and coworkers. They will thank you for it.
--Gael Strack, CEO and Co-Founder, Alliance for HOPE International

"Choose Him Wisely" is a powerful, practical guide to building safe and respectful relationships. Wexler and Meichenbaum empower readers to trust their instincts, recognize early signs of abuse, and make informed, life-changing choices. A must-read for anyone ready to break the cycle and build a future rooted in trust and emotional well-being.
-- Etiony Aldarondo, Ph.D., Executive Director, The Melissa Institute

If you have any concerns that your relationship could become abusive, read this book!
--Dr. K. Daniel O'Leary, Intimate Partner Violence Researcher, Research Professor and Distinguished Professor Emeritas, Stony Brook University, Stony Brook, NY

"Choose Him Wisely" will save many women from injury and heartache. Readers learn the often-overlooked early warning signs of an abusive partner—before the damage is done. This small but mighty book is a must read for every woman choosing a life partner.
--Christine A. Padesky, PhD, author of "Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way you Think"

It is often true, that we may have more influence over the entrance into a dangerous relationship than we realize. The problem is, we can't avoid what we don't identify. "CHOOSE HIM WISELY" has taken the crucial steps that can help potential victims identify and predict problem partners before they get involved. This book will have a positive impact in preventing dangerous partner selection.
--Sandra L. Brown, M.A., author of "How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved"

As a family lawyer and therapist, I have been following the work of Wexler and Meichenbaum for over twenty years. They are the experts in treatment for intimate partner violence, developing methods and training tens of thousands of professionals. In this book they use simple and compassionate terms to help women (and men) recognize seemingly innocent relationship behaviors that are actually quite dangerous. I strongly recommend this book for individuals and professionals.
--Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., Co-Founder, High Conflict Institute