Beyond Infidelity: How to Turn the End of Your Relationship into the Beginning of Your Life

The first book that helps people transform the experience of infidelity into a catalyst for unparalleled personal growth—from the popular online therapist who has helped thousands do the same.

Cheating is a topic therapist Lauren LaRusso knows all too well, as both a professional who helps clients grappling with the realization of a partner’s affair AND as a wife whose own marriage ended due to infidelity. Desperate for answers, LaRusso set to work learning every last thing she could about rebuilding her life and helping others do the same. Shocked by cheating’s prevalence, she wondered: if millions of people are having affairs, why aren’t we openly speaking about it? Why is the topic still so taboo? And most importantly: why isn’t anyone talking honestly about how the partners left behind can rebuild their lives and reclaim themselves in the wake of it?

Most books on infidelity either focus on reconciliation OR they normalize cheating as a mere “warning sign” in a relationship. But the truth is, infidelity is cited as a reason for 60 percent of all divorces. And while that is a scary statistic, LaRusso is here to assure you that you can still find hope and even happiness on the other side of infidelity. In fact, great beauty and personal transformation awaits...if you know how to find it.

In Beyond Infidelity, LaRusso writes the book she wishes had existed when she was suffering in silence. With an interactive seven-step guide—taking readers from understanding what you’re going through, to stabilizing yourself and curating your world, to breaking free and becoming whole—Beyond Infidelity meets readers where they are in their moment of crisis. With writing that is strikingly intimate, compassionate, and free of judgment, LaRusso's work flips the script on infidelity. Being cheated on, she explains, is not your fault. Even if your marriage ends, this moment can actually be an opportunity for lasting self-growth and healing. (Really!) This, LaRusso argues, is the true gift of infidelity—moving beyond betrayal and rising from the ashes of your relationship stronger than ever.