How to be a Friend (In an Unfriendly World)

A Gentle, Powerful Guide to Real Connection No Matter Where You Are in Life

Whether you’re a teenager figuring out who your people are, a young adult navigating new cities and shifting circles, or someone in midlife or beyond wondering what happened to the closeness you once felt—How to Be a Friend (In an Unfriendly World) is for you.

This book meets you where you are and offers a drop of joy. Originally developed from a Columbia University master’s course for psychologists, it’s written in warm, accessible prose for anyone who’s ever asked: What does it really mean to show up for someone?

In a fractured, distracted world, people aren’t looking for another productivity hack. They’re craving something real. How to Be a Friend is that invitation. It is not a quick fix, or a lecture, but a grounded reminder of what friendship can be. It doesn’t preach. It reminds us gently, and with lasting impact.

Inside, you’ll find:

• Short, powerful chapters rooted in real stories and experience
• Simple exercises and “friendship workouts” to help you practice what matters
• Tools for listening more deeply and setting boundaries with heart
• Ways to reconnect with yourself—and others—without pressure or performance
• A rare blend of psychology, spirituality, and everyday humanity
• Reflection prompts that turn good intentions into action
• A clear-eyed look at why friendships fade—and how to make them matter again

This is a how-to guide and a touchstone. A small-format companion with big impact. A book to keep on your nightstand—or give to someone you care about. 

If you’ve ever felt like the world is a little too cold, too fast, or too lonely, How to be a Friend is your reminder that you are not alone - and never have to be.