White Women: Everything You Already Know About Your Own Racism and How to Do Better

Central Park Karen, Rachel Hollis, The Latest White Lady Caught on Camera Berating a Black or Brown Person. You love to point to these women and talk about how horribly, terribly racist they are. But the truth is that all white women are racist. Yes, even you. Sorry, did that hurt your feelings? Was that not nice? As the founders of Race2Dinner, an organization that facilitates conversations between white women about white supremacy and racism-specifically your complicity in upholding white supremacy and your racism-we explore your obsession with niceness and perfection, even as it relates to your antiracism work. In this book, we ask: How has being "nice" helped Black women, Indigenous women, and other women of color? How has being "nice" helped you in your quest to end sexism? Has being "nice" earned you economic parity with white men? Beginning with freeing white women from this oppressive need to be nice, we deconstruct and analyze nine aspects of traditional white woman behavior-from tone policing to weaponizing tears-that uphold white supremacy society and hurt all of us who are trying to live a freer, more equitable life. White Women is a call to action to those of you who are looking to take the next steps in dismantling white supremacy-your white supremacy. If you are in fact doing real antiracism work, you will find few reasons to be nice. Leave your feelings at the door-and have a seat at our table.