When No One Understands: Letters to a Teenager on Life, Loss, and the Hard Road to Adulthood (Paperback)
When Amanda first came to Dr. Sachs for treatment, she had attempted suicide more than once. Withdrawn and cynical, she refused to speak during her therapy sessions. Determined to connect, Dr. Sachs tried something unconventional: he wrote letters to Amanda between sessions and invited her to write back, thinking she might feel more comfortable opening up in this way--and indeed she did. This correspondence gradually built trust between them, helping her to survive and ultimately to heal. "When No One Understands" consists of twenty letters that Dr. Sachs wrote to Amanda over the course of her therapy. In these letters, Sachs reaches out to Amanda with the core message that there is nothing wrong with her--that adolescence is painful, complex, and challenging for everyone and that her emotional pain deserves to be honored, openly explored, and viewed with compassion. Dr. Sachs also addresses many of the common questions and concerns shared by all teens on such topics as relationships, breakups, drugs and alcohol, parents, family dynamics, and more. Along the way, Dr. Sachs offers adults an inspiring image of a truly open, human-to-human relationship between an adult and a teenager. Parents, mental health professionals, guidance counselors, educators, and others who work with teens will see how they might also bring honesty, compassion, and humility to bear in their interactions with young people in order to create truly healing and supportive relationships.
About the Author
Dr. Brad Sachs is a psychologist and author of the nationally recognized parenting books, "The Good Enough Child "and "The Good Enough Teen". He has appeared on over three hundred radio and television shows, including 20/20 and The Diane Rehm Show. He regularly contributes to "Redbook", "Parenting", "Parents", " Child", and "American Baby", and is on the faculty of the Cape Cod Institute. He lives in Columbia, MD.
"A collection of sensitive, cogent, and touching observations and counsel on many of the universal themes facing adolescents as they try to navigate the tricky voyage from childhood to adulthood."—Spirituality & Practice
"Sachs's letters are gems. . . . This excellent book will be savored again and again."—Library Journal (starred review)
"Sachs's letters serve as an excellent model for encouraging communication with a teen. . . . If all adults could incorporate this kind of intrinsic respect into their conversations with adolescents, the world would be a wonderful place."—VOYA
"A book of unique kindness and clarity that will be comforting and illuminating to parents and teens alike."—Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence